Were it not for social norms being imposed top down by older women on younger women I suspect as a way for older women to try and keep the higher value older men as mating partners for themselves , I suspect most younger would date older men. The peak in attractiveness varies between men, but it generally falls somewhere between 25-33 but mostly the late 20s. Your wife at 60 is as physically or as sexually attractive as a 20 year old woman? As you said, everybody is entitled to their own age preferences. That preference seems to follow them through life. If older woman are believing that a long term meaningful relationship can develop from a man 30 years younger than them, they are truly, totally delusional. In other words, from an evolutionary and biological perspective, men are rewarded for taking their time; women are punished.
You're under no obligation to limit yourself in a manner of speaking. When dating a 14-year-old boy. Anyhow, I digress… To seek out a 40+ woman, is an ok-but-not-great idea, dictated by the statistics that a women over 40 have problems conceiving as well as greater probabilities that the child will be born with genetic defects. I was blonde, it made zero difference. Or maybe I was just too dumb enough to recognize when to throw in the towel and do something else for a career. It makes me sad to hear that middle-aged couples divorce because their sex life is not very active or exciting. Then it would not make sense if the 30 year old was dating a girl still in college while they are working.
Women my whole life have told me that I am very good looking. She is 44 and thin, blond, and gorgeous. They have two children … both adopted. A 40-year-old should stick with someone at least 27. But 18 year old woman i have a number. Her attractiveness while a nice bonus was less important. If someone would show me pictures of a 100 men, all ages, I would probably also find the younger ones more attractive on avarege…and the men looking like my latest crush…well I probably wouldnt even notice them.
I am a 32 year old woman and even though I am married I, once in a while, fall a little bit in love with other men because I am human. What about a girl who's single at 30; aren't there even more warning signs? I have never figured out what made me attracted to those men, but it just happens…its some kind of an invisible chemistry. Yet societal norms still exist. Why not wait for those artificial wombs? He would be thinking only of the total ecstasy which awaits. For a long term relationship or marriage, I much prefer my peers for best communication, shared wisdom, commonality. If I were a man or hell, even as a straight woman , Jennifer Aniston would catch my eye.
Trust me, your wives are acutely aware of this fact too. I remember feeling the same way you do, vividly. Interview date someone aged 17 year old woman, 1989, a younger than. By, age 70-74, the ratio is 4 to 1! How long can we be 20 years old? Hell, some guys drop dead of heart attacks at that age. Though I could see how they would be attractive to you. If a hot guy their own age comes into the store, they are probably so intimidated, they become mute. Glad things worked out that way.
We started dating and became a couple. Why they would bother is beyond me, especially when many of them will be out competed and alone because they themselves wasted their good years chasing the unobtainable for most. But the thing that gets me riled up is when these guys who get a date with these young girls think that they are something special and think they are young again. Without accountability, redditquette guidelines mean nothing and will only result in a combination of unconscious groupthink the human mind naturally will try to agree with the majority opinion of the social group he identifies with and de facto censorship downvotes literally hide comments from view. I love looking at young, strong men today.
Older women bring way more expertise to the table then younger women who think that a microwave dinner is a gourmet meal. Old makes me, no 20 year old woman dating a 20. I know a man in his 50s who is currently dating a woman in her 20s. From age 60-64, there are close to 2. These are men to avoid so a blessing really to be passed over by them. And while I helped him fill out quickly the main points in his profile - there was also the women's range of age automatically set at about 6years below and 4years above his age - so I changed the latter to 6years above. When you hit 49, check and see if sweet young teenage girls still flirt with you.
Not to worry, women are very rarely 'scared' off over a small age difference. The problem with this is that unofficial guidelines are exactly that. You really think young woman like the older nasty pervert Hefner? Do a survey on these people and the numbers will be different. Christian Rudder, president of OkCupid, is the guy who digs up the numbers from the millions of people using his free dating site. Beyond physical characteristics, there is another reason that women in their 60s might want to consider looking for a younger man. Some of them are smart, some of them make me laugh, some have money, some are poor…some are very very plain. What really matters is the point where you both are in your lives.
And they've had enough of all the wannabee playahs their own age? Not to say that older women are not beautiful as well, many are. As before, men of all ages pay attention to me. Instead of the female curve, which suggests that 34-year-old women like 34-year-old men, men find 20 year-old women most physically appealing, no matter how old they were. Men are attracted to women who are at their most fertile. My cousin married a 31 year old when she was 19 and they divorced after 2 years. In all honesty, I feel for men having existential midlife crises. A 24-year-old should date somebody at least 19.