If not, it is now or drinking buddies. Hooking up is going to do this. Before doing anything, look at the level of friendship you have and whether you'd be comfortable asserting it with him after the fact. It's going to hurt even if you say all the nice things you should say — that you're still going to be his friend, that you're going to try not to Instagram this girl obsessively, etc. Hooking up with a best friend is one of the ultimate tests when it comes to your friendship and while it may not be the best idea, there are a few ways to safely passage a way through the ultimate crap show that it could turn into. This conversation will not go well. As men and women become increasingly free to indulge in physical relationships with relatively fewer consequences let's give it up for birth control! Tom, one of my childhood friends, was always kind of bummed out, until he met Josie, a fast-talking, high-energy woman who brought him out of his shell.
Most importantly, stay out of the relationship. Accordingly, you should treat this like any other important decision, which is to say that you should get as much information as possible. Our friends should complement us. Finding your soul mate is really hard. Now we only argue when we talk. Having a guy best friend is awesome. This is the most dangerous options.
Is this girl really special to you? There was only one weird thing about her, which is that I would occasionally catch her looking at me a little funny. Con: Your friend group will find out whether you like it or not If you and your friend are in the same friend group, you might try to keep it a secret if it was a one-time deal and you want to move past it. A range of outcomes can occur, some more difficult than others. Guys gravitate towards the familiar, and they sure appreciate the comfort-ability that goes along with having a girl as a best friend who just might be down with a friendly hookup. A bad night under the sheets happens. . Even worse, it's easy to get stuck in this holding pattern where one person almost always develops feelings while the other person falls for someone else.
No one will ever willingly admit to faults and bad qualities. If you're still , it wasn't that serious, or it's still serious. Tom found out, and he never forgave me. After two years, I fell in love with him. Which is that people never really get over significant romantic relationships.
They are funny, protective, they give you great advice and the only drama you two share is deciding whether you want pizza or Chinese for dinner. And this could change things for ever. Those two things are so, so easily confused. Granted it is not the ideal situation and even if you think your friendship is strong enough to surpass this possibility, think again. Going back to my experience, the guy my friend set me up with was the opposite of what I find attractive. I can only speak for myself when I say there has to be some sort of attraction in order to date someone.
Maybe this is your future wife, or muse, or whatever it is that you're looking for. We want a guy friend who makes us laugh, goes out to dinner with us on a Friday night and watches the Rangers with us. Discussing college basketball, microbrews, sex and politics with your best guy friend may give you some relief from the typical girl drama you learn about at Sunday brunch with your roommates from college. Your true intentions are much more than that. Do you tell your girlfriend what he says about her? Shoot, I want a man, not a boy going through puberty! Was there always sexual tension between the two of you and this was just a long time coming? They will tell you exactly what you are doing wrong and how to fix it to make it work. If you're currently lonely and you really need to get laid, consider that maybe you're just desperate.
They know you inside and out and chances are your conversations have gotten deep over the years; they may know who your first sexual encounter was with and they may even know what your favorite position is. This one guy, however, made it past the first date. Just as long as you do not allow the awkwardness to get too awkward. They Might Want More You just wanted to hook up. They know everything there is to know about you, so they may as well see you naked! Tell your friend about your intentions, and ask him if there's any way you can make the process easier for him. It's much more likely that just the opposite will happen.
Or is she just an attractive person who finds you attractive, too? Having someone introduce you to a possible match is a hall pass and can potentially turn out great. Do you go back to him farting in front of you and making fun of you, like he would to his sister? Maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe too late, or maybe forever. There is a deep bond between best friends, and that deep bond is not lost when you call someone of the opposite sex your best friend. You know that this disastrous event could potentially completely ruin your friendship with him forever, unless it is handled properly. On the other hand, the drunken one-night stand from last weekend might not exactly be marriage material, but the lack of emotional connection could lead to a less complicated friendship down the line.
Time wise, it can come in a variety of combinations. No matter the gender, we find our friends attractive. Chances are if you are best friends with a guy, he has thought about sleeping with you, touching you in an appropriate manner, and he has even thought about dating you. You know they want a career change and that nerves give them heartburn. So, if you are going to play cupid, know which direction your bow will hit.